Having boundaries is like drawing a line. One side has the things you are okay with and the other side has those that you are not okay with, don’t feel ready for, or make you uncomfortable. This line looks different for everyone, so you need to know where yours needs to be drawn. Setting boundaries is a way to teach your partner about your needs and let them know when something doesn’t feel right. You are allowed to put your needs before someone else’s needs especially if their needs make you uncomfortable.
Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people. There is no imbalance of power. Partners respect each other’s independence, can make their own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation, and share decisions. If or when a relationship ends, there is no stalking or refusal to let the other partner go.