How to respond when your boundaries are crossed?
If a boundary has been crossed by your partner who didn’t know where your line was drawn, have an honest conversation. It could be something as simple as saying, “Hey, I don’t like it when you ________. This makes me uncomfortable. Do you think next time you can ______ instead?”
This might take some back and forth before reaching an agreement that meets both of your needs, but your relationship will be stronger.
This might be abuse if a boundary has been crossed even though you had already been clear about your limits. Crossing a line might be obvious, like if you say no to having sex. But it can also be more subtle like if your partner guilts you into something, begs you until you give in, or threatens to break up with you unless you do what they want.
Source: New York Gov. (The link opens in a new window)